Are you a tourist/traveler? Have you ever felt inadequate after scrolling through another traveler’s Instagram feed? This got me thinking about bad habits mentally weak travelers have. In fact, my list is directly inspired by Amy Morin’s bestseller, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do. Here are 13 things mentally strong travelers shouldn’t do in 2018.
1. They waste time feeling sorry for themselves.
Mentally weak travelers love to throw pity parties for themselves: “Yes, I went to Paris but it rained all the time” or ” I got sick in India and hated it.” Even if they can’t afford to travel abroad, they don’t make the effort to discover their own home country or see it through new eyes.
2. They give away their power.
Mentally weak travelers allow others to control how they react to situations. If a local from another country unwittingly insults them because of cultural differences, they take it personally and generalize about all the people in that place. These travelers also feel guilty if their friends and family criticize their decision to travel.
3. They shy away from change.
Mentally weak travelers don’t move out of their comfort zones. For instance, they always go on all-inclusive vacations and fail to venture past the hotel. They only hang out with other travelers who share their likes/dislikes. In other words, they travel to another country only to hang out with people and do things they could otherwise do at home.
4. They waste energy on things they can’t control.
Mentally weak travelers love to complain about things beyond their control. They complain about the bad weather, the language barrier, the traffic, the lumpy hotel bed, and the overly spicy/bland food. They aren’t grateful for the money and time to have a vacation. They can’t turn a terrible situation into an inspiring/entertaining travel story when they get home.
5. They worry about pleasing everyone.
Mentally weak travelers are perennial worriers. They’re always anxious about whether others are enjoying the trip. In the end, they end up resenting these people and don’t get the chance to enjoy their vacation for themselves. They also buy shoddy goods because they are bullied to do so by the tour guide who gets a commission on the side.
6. They fear taking calculated risks.
Mentally weak travelers are reckless. They are foolish when it comes to moving beyond their comfort zone. They buy weed from the piper on a Caribbean beach and then get angry when they get caught by the local police. They go to bed with random strangers because they’re “on vacation” and then cry wolf when they develop an STD later on.
7. They dwell on the past.
Mentally weak travelers are always in the past. If they visit a place a second time, they complain that it was cooler/less touristy/more off the beaten track/unspoiled the last time. They keep saying that travel way back when was purer because there was no social media or GPS. They can’t appreciate the present and the modern.
8. They make the same mistakes over and over.
Mentally weak travelers blame others and external circumstances anytime something goes wrong. For example, they don’t learn from their mistakes and fail to understand that they play a role in their repeat travel misadventures.
9. They resent other travelers’ success stories.
Mentally weak travelers are always jealous of other travelers’ Instagram/Facebook/blog feed and fail to understand that most social media posts are staged to create an illusion of happiness. If someone visits 20 countries, they gloat that they’ve been to 21. They love to one-up other travelers with more outrageous travel stories and fail to see that success as a traveler is always a unique story no one else can tell.
10. They give up after the first failure.
Mentally weak travelers give up after they fail for the first time. If they stumble while learning flamenco, they swear off the dance forever. If they got tongue-tied speaking Japanese to a local, they don’t open their mouths for the rest of the trip. They don’t see failure as opportunities to learn on the road.
11. They fear alone time.
Mentally weak travelers hate being alone. They’re always desperate to be with someone else on the road, even if they fight with that person most of the time. They can’t go anywhere without having someone else tagging along. They can’t appreciate quiet moments when they can reflect on the journey or the lessons of travel.
12. They feel the world owes them anything.
Mentally weak travelers feel entitled to enjoy their vacation time 100% of the time. After all, they worked all year and deserve this! They think that Bangkok/London/Machu Picchu has to be perfect because they showed up. They can’t understand that people actually live in these places and lead ordinary lives without having to defer to hapless tourists.
13. They expect immediate results.
Mentally weak travelers can’t wrap their heads around cultural differences. For instance, Westerners travel to countries like Fiji and expect the same prompt service they receive in their homelands, failing to fathom the cultural divide that exists regarding their concept of time and “Fiji time.”
Do you agree/disagree with this list? Please share in the comments!